By Elizabeth Muriithi
So last week I made an introduction to this controversial topic. Just to recap (for those who didn’t read that article), I categorised the “no strings attached” type of guys (stingys) into 4groups. There are those who treat their ladies as FRIENDS, others treat them as GIRLFRIENDS, some as WIVES and finally as SLAVES. In today’s article, which is the 2nd part in this 4part continuing series, we will delve more into the behaviour of this breed of guys.
Now the first lot is a weirdo if you ask me. This guy will always call you late in the night, take you out for treats, act all lovey-dovey and stuff but a couple of months down the line, he still calls you HIS FRIEND. Now how weird is that? The mere mention of the word, “commitment” sends shrills of fright down this dude’s spine. Get a baby and the guy disappears into thin air faster than a flash of lightning. If anything, this dumbo is only out to have fun with young girl’s hearts. So if you think you are in “love” with such a guy, you are basically in “love” alone and there is nothing worse than that.
A common feature with such stingys is that they normally have numerous lady “friends” in every female hostel. The problem is that some girls never seem perturbed about being treated this way. However, a majority of ladies in here just dance with the music, giving the dude time to compose himself in case he is the shy type, crossing her fingers that one day he may just bid his time and declare his love for her and eventually marriage. CRAP!! If he acts like he loves you but never says a thing, then HE DOESN’T LOVE YOU ENOUGH!
That brings me to the second type of “stingy” who can really fake being in love. Or should I call it being in lust? He calls you HIS GIRLFRIEND. His definition of this? To him, you are a girl like any other, with nothing spectacular. This is the type of stingy whom you cook for, do his laundry and other chores but you will always hear about his escapades with other ladies. Chances are you may have even caught him severally cheating on you but he always denies it Shagggy style: “It wasn’t me babe. It’s not what you are thinking.”Predictably enough, you’ve always been taking him back. Picture that! In as much as I’m trying hard to fight the urge of calling that sleazy, I’m out of choices as to what I should term it.
A common feature with such wackos is that they exaggerate everything when it comes to love. He will tell you he loves you 24/7 for the world to hear, escort you to class even if it is at ICDC and his lecture is about to start in the next 5minutes at Ngeria, act all sweet and stuff. . . Need I go on? I figure you get my point by now. Basically, he will stick on you harder than glue; a bug that is not so easy to push away.
At this point, I know most of you ladies doubt whether “your guys” truly love you or are in love with you but before I can answer that, let’s get to the 3rd type of stingy. This is the guy who calls you HIS WIFE. He will move into your room as soon as he can, even if it is after a week of knowing each other, thus making your roomie roomless and roomieless but this does not make you flinch; you are in love and she is not. Problem comes in once campus closes and you never hear from your so-called “husband” again till campus re-opens. A common feature with such guys is that they will always want to accompany you everywhere and anywhere (within campus of course) just that everyone sees that you are his property and all other guys eyeing you lose the psyche to continue their pursuit. This type of guy will even demand that you dress in a particular way as a proper wife should. Imagine that!
Now the 4th type is the worst (as if the others are any better). To him, you are HIS SLAVE. He always orders you around, tells you what to adorn and what not to have as part of your apparel, who to have as your pal and who to regard as your foe. In fact, he has turned you into a punch bag but you say it is just another stage when you are in love. “He will change. He loves me,” you say but it keeps getting worse with every passing day.
Sob. . . Sob. . . You find yourself always covering up for him in the name of “being in love” but it is like he has gone blind and he never appreciates this. He frightens you but this diddly bothers him. You constantly seek his approval even when the matter at hand is not that major. Pardon me. Did I just say approval? That is what you call it but deep down you know he trashes whatever you say and orders you to do what he wants. Any objection to this evokes a slap, a kick and punches all around. You are like a caged bird seeking for release but you fear to admit this. You fear to be single and independent once again. You fear that he will refuse to let you go. You are afraid that he will hunt you down and kill you once you leave. Basically, you are too afraid to look deep within you and see the courage that lies wherein.
Watch out for the 3rd part next week in this 4part continuing series; The “NO STRINGS ATTACHED” Type of Guy
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