HE IS CHEATING ON ME

By Lilian Motanya

She looked innocent and beautiful and as I threw a glance at her, I realized I was wrong to blame her for the lustful ways of my so called boyfriend. My boyfriend had seduced her with his sweet, romantic but false words and she had fallen for his trap. I had no reason to blame her, she thought she was the only one not knowing that she was number two or even number three, who knew? Being a freshman, she had easily fallen in love with this man who I now realized had a degree in playing games.

She did not want to look different, her friends had already been kwachuad, who was she to be left behind? She had met this man during the fresher’s night, she had danced with him, he bought her drinks and they ended by exchanging numbers and escorting her to her room. From then on, he became a frequent visitor in her room, I was fully aware of this but waited for the right time to attack. To her, he was Mr. Right but she was wrong.

Who the hell did he think he was to heartbreak me each time freshers arrived in campus? Our relationship began when I was a fresher. At that time, he was a good man, so innocent and faithful. The following year, he became a different man and started cheating on me with a first year. I had learnt of the affair and confronted him which he promised to stop. I forgave him knowing in mind that a mistake once committed was not a mistake, not until it was repeated. I had decided to bury the past and look into the future, but now! He had no excuse to give me. I had all the evidence I needed.

I noticed his change of behavior when his calls became limited, he started calling me once a week when he used to call me each day. When I arrived at school, his visits to my room became rare while my friend told me that he daily sets his feet in hostel k. On his facebook account, his status of being in a relationship was removed. When I asked him about his behavior, he claimed he was busy which was a plain lie since the semester was not yet ripe. That was when I decided to investigate and learnt that he had a new catch in K.

I was angry, I needed to find a way of teaching him a lesson. How could he cheat me when I kept myself faithful to him? But again, how could I be so stupid to continue loving this man? I would have dumped him the first time he cheated on me. But I thought he could change! I remembered my mother’s advice to me “never give your heart to a man, a man will still be a man.” She was right, my man was like other men even if he had seemed different at the beginning.

I had to work out a plan to teach him a lesson and stop him from heartbreaking innocent girls. I think I would begin by being a friend to this girl she was dating and then other plans would follow. She could not be my enemy, she had not committed any crime. But at the moment, I would go to facebook and update my status as being single. I would then write “some men don’t deserve to be loved by decent ladies, to hell with them, nkt!” I knew I would find a lot of friends who would console me but I knew that this was going to make his heart race with anger, which was my intention anyway.

I decided to be single, it was the best option. I mean, I am educated and could soon be earning a good salary and then become Miss independent. Having an unfaithful man beside me was the last thing I would think of. But of cause there are those faithful ones, the rare cases who seem to be dropped from heaven. If I would find one like that, I would then rethink on my options.